Cousin Chance and I were standing on the beach.
My wife Heather and daughter Lily were out in the waves with Chance’s wife Susette jumping waves.
We hadn’t seen each other in a couple of years, but Chance is like a brother to me. I was telling him some of the challenges that Heather and I have been going through this year and how difficult the past couple of months have been.
He put his hand on my shoulder and peered at me and said, “How about right now? Everything is okay right now isn’t it?”
Everything is always okay “right now,” but when the big challenges come, this is easy to forget. And I have forgotten this often here of late.
Everything was okay. Everything is going to be okay. Everything already is okay.
I breathed a sigh of relief, and looked out at the ocean, where the girls were laughing and having a great time.
Then he said, “You see that little girl out there? You are her father and you are irreplaceable. Nobody can replace you.”
I sobbed and said, “Yes I know.”
Then after a moment I headed out to the water to be with my girls.
The truth is that stuff happens. It happens to everyone and it is going to happen to me and it is going to happen to you.
And there are times when you have to put your “big boy/girl pants” on, pull up your boot straps and just keep going.
Most of the time things are okay. You have to get tough every now and then. But then there are times when it seems like you have to do it every fifteen minutes.
It has been a few days now and today I am feeling a lot of gratitude for all the wonderful people in my life. So many people around me support me, and help to keep me going when things are tough.
I am a Spiritual Leader and a Minister, and in my mind sometimes, it seems that this means that I am supposed to carry everyone.
But the truth is that I am a Spiritual Leader and a minister because I need all of you to carry me.
I guess we all carry each other.
After Chance got home, he sent me this great article that was written by Pema Chodrin, which I’d like to share with you all.
And remember, it is okay to need help sometimes, and it is always okay to help someone out. Even if it is just an encouraging word.
Words go a long way.