Saying the right thing at the right time is a big part of what I do, but just as importantly is knowing when to keep quiet.
Kind of like, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.” We can read, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” a million times, but until we have learned the lesson, it is of no use.
Sometimes a client will explain to me, “I used to go to this place, but so and so upset me so I started going to another place, but they are too so and so, so then …. ” and I wonder silently if they can see their pattern.
Sometimes they are ready to see and break the pattern and sometimes not. But it is not for me to keep a person from learning their lesson.
I had to learn everything the hard way myself, so I understand.
But once you know, then you know. And that is what makes the bumps and bruises worth it. Getting to the other side. Growing. Becoming a better person. Feeling better about yourself and the world around you.
It is important for each of us to know when to push ourselves and when not to. The biggest thing to remember about making changes, is that we typically want to make drastic changes.
“Why can’t I just step from A to Z?” I would ask.
Now with myself, it is all about taking baby steps. It is about taking all the in-between steps. There are many letters between A and Z. If I take one little step at a time, before I know it there is change occurring!
So I invite you this week to sit down and write or journal about a big change that you want to make. It could be anything… a bad habit that you want to break or a goal that you want to accomplish.
Then break it down into little steps.
Chart your course. Draw up the plans. Say out loud, “I am …!!!” Proclaim what you are doing. Not what you are “going to do” or what you would “like to do” but proclaim what you are doing. What already is. What has already begun.
Then begin working with taking the first initial step and getting comfortable with that. You can move on from there!
And please keep me posted! I love when you share your stories with me!