In the book, “The Four Agreements,” by Don Miguel Ruiz, I learned to never take anything personally.
I learned that everything I say and do can only be about me. Not you. It has nothing to do with you at all.
And so nothing you say or do has anything to do with me. It has only to do with you.
It is a fact that when someone tries to put someone else down, it is simply because they have a need to feel better about themselves.
And it does make you feel better. When you, “one-up” someone, it triggers the pleasure neurons in your brain. You get pleasure.
Now that you have shown your superiority, you feel better. You feel justified.
And these days on social media, that is pretty much 80% of what I see. People trying to justify themselves.
More often than not, they don’t know anything about the person or the situation in question. And that doesn’t seem to really matter.
Most of it from both sides is nothing more than slander, propaganda, false information, or information that has been blown completely out of context.
But it makes us feel better.
The day I truly realized that my need to attack or to be, “better than” someone else, was merely a picture of my inferiority complex, I began to attack less and less.
It doesn’t accomplish anything anyway. It is a never-ending boxing match.
Just something to think about…