Some people will tell you to “follow your heart” no matter where it leads.
Some people will tell you to “stick with the facts” and not make decisions based on feelings.
The truth is that there are times when we need to follow our hearts, AND then there are times when we need to stick with the facts and not act on our feelings.
It seems that the trick is in knowing what time it is.
You may fall head over heels in love with someone who is not a good match for you. Soon there will be conflict galore.
You may want to start your own business only to find, that being self-employed isn’t all it is cracked up to be. Doing what you want to do might not compensate you the way you would like, there may be much more work and time involvement than you imagined, and so there is conflict.
At the same time, you may stick to the facts, only to miss out on things you truly love.
What if you don’t take those chances? What if you don’t try that relationship or starting the business of your dreams?
It is true that “You’ve got to do what you’ve got to do.” And I say all the time that, “If you want to learn to play the game, then you better get out there on the field!”
You can read about it, think about it, other people can tell you about it, but if you are like I am, you have to see for yourself.
The good news is that if we find ourselves in a spot we don’t want to be in, we can get out of it!
If you are having difficulties, the chances are that you 1) Dove in with your heart without really looking , or 2) Ignored your heart and followed facts, doing things “by the book”.
Personally, I much admire people who get out there on the field, suit up, and play the game. In other words, “it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.”
It becomes simply a matter of making some minor adjustments. A little less heart and a few more facts, or vice-versa.
Above all, please remember that no matter what it is that might be troubling you, you can change it!