– Wanting creates stress.
– Stress is actually my fear of not getting what I want.
– Wanting breeds wanting, and it never ends.
– To drop desire, to not want, is to be a giver, a servant.
When I am worried and stressed out, the first thing to do is to ask myself “Do I have any control whatsoever over this matter?” More times than not, the answer is “no”, so why the stress? Why the worry? Because I want something, I want a situation to work out in a particular way, I want something from someone, it could even be that I want something good for someone who is troubled. It doesn’t matter what it is that I want, wanting creates stress.
Stress is actually my fear that I am not going to get what I want. I fear that things won’t work out the way I want, and this can cause me to be controlling, to manipulate, rationalize, and justify just about anything. Then when I fully realized that every time I did get what I wanted, I immediately wanted something else, that just stopped me in my tracks. You see, wanting breeds wanting, and it never ends.
This is where Spirituality enters the picture. Do I believe in God? How does the Universe work? To be wanting is to be a taker, to be a beggar. Then when I don’t get what I want, I get mad like a child. To drop desire, to not want, is to be a giver, a servant. To be a servant is to truly be a grown up. Lots of people have the idea that adulthood is all about having stress and pressure and worry, but in reality, this is not true. At least, not for one who has dropped all desire.