The other day a friend of mine told me that he had been in a wreck. Someone had ran a red light and side swiped him, and so he had gotten out of the car and verbally assaulted the other driver something fierce. After the police arrived and my friend had calmed down, he apologized to the other driver, but here he was days later, still feeling badly about how he had reacted. He said,”I never act that way! I am calm and peaceful!”
It happens to us all. You have a situation that catches you off guard, or maybe you are just having one of those days where things are not going your way, and you have just had enough. This particular friend of mine has been walking a Spiritual path for quite a while, and I must say, that I cannot imagine him in a state of fury, yelling at someone. We grow and we get better and our lives do become calm and serene, and then the inevitable happens! Something happens and we don’t handle it the way we would have liked to. It can be frustrating enough for people who are in the beginnings of walking the path who have moments more often, but just wait until you don’t have bad moments for a while and then you have one! It can be very surprising and as with my friend, can leave you upset at yourself for days.
Now for an idea: A man was taking a walking tour of the most beautiful garden anywhere. There were plants and flowers of every kind, and plenty of “ooh’s” and “ahh’s” from the others in his tour group. The guide was explaining to the group about a most exotic plant that could only be found in a certain part of the world at a certain time of the year, when the man bent down to closely examine the plant and exclaimed “There’s a BUG on this plant!”
Catch my drift? When I keep tabs on myself, I see that a good portion of the time is in line with my Spiritual ideals and my intentions, however, I tend to focus on the BUG. True enough I need to acknowledge and deal with the bug, but I also need to acknowledge and pay respects to all of the good things I have accomplished, learned, and share with others.
My friend handled his situation perfectly! He had a tough moment or two, but just a few minutes later he realized what he had done, and apologized to the other person. Perhaps my friend had gotten to thinking too highly of himself, or perhaps he had never been side swiped before and didn’t know he would react that way. Everything happens for a reason, and the best any of us can do is to try and learn the lesson and move on.
Take an inventory at the end of the day today and write down all the things you did that you are happy with. Then write down the things you would like to do better or things you would like to change about yourself. You will see real quick that the good out weighs the bad. Then smile!!!