I’ve been reading “Conversations With God” lately and Neale Donald Walsch explains how our relationship with God becomes like our relationship with our parents. We ask, beg, plead, and try to bargain to get what we want.
The trouble here is that God is not your parents and He/She/It does not work in this fashion.
All of our spiritual teachers tell us that if we want certain things, then we must do certain things. It’s pretty simple really. If you want to be forgiven you must forgive. If you want to get, then you must give. We are told to treat others the way that we want to be treated.
In other words, I had to do all the things that I really didn’t want to do. I didn’t even know how to be forgiving or how to be giving. I didn’t understand why anyone would want to forgive people who had wronged them in some way. I sure didn’t understand why I should give, especially since I always seemed to have so little.
But it works.
Try looking at it this way; Praying is not talking to God. Prayer is taking an action towards God. Prayer to me is action. Prayer is my part or my side of my relationship with God.
Prayer is working through a resentment or a grudge that I am holding on to and letting it go. If you don’t know how to let it go, then you have to find someone to help you. That is what I had to do and still have to do at times. “How can I see this differently?” “How can I possibly forgive?”
It is me who has to change, and when I do, I instantly feel better. See how that works? I do my part by forgiving and I am automatically forgiven.
Prayer is giving when you feel like you can’t give. Look around you and find something that you don’t use anymore, or something that you bought and never used. Give it away to someone who could and would use it! Give a little bit of money instead of waiting until you can make a big donation. This is prayer.
These rules, or “Universal Laws” that are set down before us appear not only in the Bible, but can easily be found in any spiritual text. The rules do not say, “You forgive so and so, and then I will consider forgiving you” or “Give away a percentage, and then you might receive something back”. No. The Law of Cause and Effect” is exactly like the Law of Gravity. These laws are cut and dried, black and white. You step off the Empire State Building and we’ll see you later. You don’t give and you aren’t going to get.
In short, when it starts to feel like life has turned against me, I know better than to think that it is God turning against me. God is always there. The problem is that I am not in accordance with the Universal Laws.