– If you don’t have goals, you can only practice limited thinking.
– Decide that you are going to get what you want.
– Eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary.
One of my friends saw Tony Robbins here is Savannah recently, and shared with me a very powerful story that he told during his presentation. I will play Tony and tell the story here, as if it happened to me;
I was approached by a homeless man and he asked me for a quarter. I replied “A quarter? Are you sure that’s what you want?” He changed his tune and asked for a dollar. Again I replied “A dollar? Are you sure that’s what you want?” He said “Come on man, can you spare a dollar?” So I pulled out my money clip that was fat with hundred-dollar bills, not even sure if I had a one dollar bill. I held it between us so that he could watch as I flipped through the bills, and yes, there was a one dollar bill. I pulled it out and gave it to him. Then I walked away.
At first I thought this story was good, but after a few days, it was still with me. The original idea of “Ask for what you want” was one thing, but this started going deeper with me. I realized; If you don’t know what you want, then how can you ask for it? This means that if I don’t have goals, then I can only practice “limited thinking.” I can only function from lack, and we know that lack breeds lack.
Rule number 1: Know what you want.
It is pretty tough at times to really know what we want. If you are having trouble with this, I suggest getting out some paper and a pen, and making a list of things that you do not like about your life. You want to be thorough on this, and really inspect your life and how you think. Everyone wants more money, most of us want more of everything, but the question becomes “How to get more?” You may like your job, but need to make more money. You may want to work on certain aspects of a relationship, you may want to start your own business, or you may be thinking about a vacation. By making this list, we are going to get a lot of information that will help us towards deciding what we want. Even if you don’t get “the big picture”, you can make a good start towards where you want to go, just by making this list.
If there are things that you know you want, go ahead and write them down, no matter how far-fetched they may seem. You see, it is the “far-fetched” part that we will want to rid ourselves of. Lots of people in the world have what you want, so why shouldn’t you? All things are possible. There is a way. So write down what you want!
Rule number 2: Decide that you are going to get what you want.
There is no reason why you cannot have what you want. Whatever it may be, it exists and there is a way to get it. Yes we have limitations in life, but only if we choose to look at life as a limitation. A 50-year-old who wants to be on the Olympic swim team may feel disappointed. He may wish he was young again. Why doesn’t he go down to the YMCA and join a swim team for his age group? If there isn’t one, why doesn’t he start one? He may find that there are lots of people his age who want to be on a swim team, and he will never know if he just sits around wishing he was younger. So once you have written down what you want, MAKE A MOVE! On this same paper where you have written down the things you want, make a list of ways that you can move towards your goals. If you want to quit smoking, but don’t seem to be able to quit entirely, can you cut back a little? If you want to be a successful business person, start acting like one, and dressing like one. Maybe there are chances for you to hang around with people who already have what you want, and this is always a good idea. Remember that if you stay where you are, you stay where you are. If you want changes, you must change. We can do this a little at a time, but we move towards what we want.
Rule number 3: Ask for it.
Our language is very important. All things are the way we say they are. Know this, and if you don’t know it, learn to know it. See that it is the truth. Start talking as if you know what you want, and you are going to get it. Tell people what you are doing and say “I am going to do it!” Erase the word “trying” from your vocabulary. Do you notice the difference in these two sentences?
– I am trying to raise $5,000 for breast cancer research.
– I am raising $5,000 for breast cancer research.
There is only a one word difference in these two sentences, but the person who uses the second sentence is a very different person than the one who uses the first sentence. Very different. Be the person who uses the second sentence! What happens when a man walks up to Tony Robbins and says “I’ve got a part-time job and I am raising $1000 so that I can rent myself a room.” ? This man stands a chance of renting a room for himself much faster than he may have imagined!