I have been working a seasonal job in a call center to make extra money this holiday season.
Today a lady called, and when she had finished ordering her products she suddenly exclaimed, “I don’t know what to do my husband died and all these grandkids are coming and I miss my husband so badly.”
I said, “You are going to keep it moving forward Margaret, because that is what we do.”
“Yes.” She said. “That is what we do. Thank you.
And we hung up.
And the terrible grief pains of missing my mother, who passed away on Christmas Day of 2017 appeared. And it just became so clear that there are SO MANY people who have loved and lost, and who have gone through so many trials and tribulations.
Because it happens to us all.
Quite honestly the most helpful thing that anyone said to me when mom died was, “Hey my mama’s dead too. Everybody’e mama dies. That is just what happens, so you are going to have to deal with it. You are no different than any of the rest of us.”
You might think that sounds harsh, but it was just what I needed to hear at the time. And it is most true.
This is why we hold our family and friends closely. This is why we go to our church, or why we belong to a dart team at a local bar.
Because we need each other.
It is fine to grieve. It is fine to feel sad. It is fine to be depressed. But this is our reality. It is the way of the Universe. One day it will be our turn to transition out of here too.
But in the meantime while we are here, we gotta keep it moving forward. And remember that there are others all around you who have had the same experiences or worse, or they are going to have them.
Peace and blessings to you brothers and sisters on your journey. If you need a hand, please don’t be afraid to say so and reach out.
Because we keep it moving forward. That is what we do. And we are all doing that. And so we are not alone!