I Am Not “The Judge”


kyle_ssi_008There is a big difference between using your “good judgement”, and “being judgmental” of others.

I use my “good judgement” all the time. It is for me to decide if something is a good idea or not, who to spend my time with, and how to live my life. It is also important for me to know when I need help. Sometimes I don’t know what the right thing to do is, so I pray and meditate on it, and if that doesn’t help I ask someone else. I use my “good judgement” with this too in that if my breaks are out, I don’t take my car to the transmission shop. When I need help getting something or accomplishing a goal, I go ask someone who has already accomplished the goal, what I want to know. They are always more than happy to tell me what I need to know.

It doesn’t matter what you choose in life, or which way you decide to go, there is a price to pay. Every cause has an effect and there is no escaping this. I pay for every decision I make and for everything I do. This means that it is the same for you. It doesn’t matter what your situation is in life, there are probably some good things about it, and there are probably drawbacks as well. My good judgement tells me that there is no need for me to be judgmental of another person, even if I know that they are barking up the wrong tree. I might make an attempt to interject and say “Let’s think about this a minute”, but if someone won’t listen, then that is really no skin off my back. They have to experience the effect of whatever they cause. There have plenty of times when I wouldn’t listen to anybody, and had to experience unpleasant effects. You live and you learn.

Judging you is not my job. It isn’t my responsibility. The only purpose that it could possibly serve is to help me feel a false sense of superiority over you. As I have learned to love myself, the need for that has diminished somewhat, though not totally.

The point I’m trying to make is that the Universe will take care of it, and I don’t have to. It isn’t up to me to dole out your reward or your punishment. You will get what is coming to you just like I will get what is coming to me. The law of cause and effect works instantly, and I have a deep understanding of that today. If I do something I shouldn’t do, then this is an indication that I feel badly about myself. I am hurt before I even take the action, and then I am hurt when I take the action. The cause is me, the way I am, the way I see things, my entire make-up is the cause. If I do something wrong there are plenty of ways that it may effect me, but the most important way is in how I feel about myself.

I believe that if God is anything or anywhere at all, then God has to be everything and everywhere. God is All and All is God. I see God in you and I see God in me. We are all Holy beings, and we are all doing the best we can, and each individual one of us must experience our own world of cause and effect. We cannot escape that. So let us not condemn ourselves, and let us not condemn other people. Let us work on ourselves, mind our own side of the street, and allow other people to mind theirs. Let us try to lift somebody up instead of trying to knock someone down. If we try to help somebody and it doesn’t work or they take advantage of us, let us know that they are really taking advantage of themselves.

Let us use our good judgement and not waste so much time and energy being judgmental of other people.

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Margaret Thompson says:

Well written…”Judge not, that ye be not judged , And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”

kyle says:

Thank you for your reply Margaret! Let us take this to heart!