Food, Diets, and Weight Loss (part 3 of 3)

Kyle Shiver

Kyle Shiver INHA

– We no longer blame
– Food is not the problem
– Everyone has issues
– How do you feel about yourself?

As a Spiritual life coach and holistic health practitioner, my approach to life is centered around Universal Laws and Spiritual Principals. Living a life based on Spiritual principals can be a difficult task, because we, as individuals, must assume responsibility for ourselves. We can no longer blame other people for our feelings or actions, we can no longer blame circumstance for our feelings and actions. We stand up, if only a little at a time, and take the reigns.

In this last blog of the series “Food, Diets, and Weight Loss”, it is time for us to discuss what can be a very sensitive subject: It’s not the food! If you have a weight problem, your problem is not the food, it is you. How could food be a problem? Food is food. It is us who makes the choice to order from a menu, it is us who makes the decision to pick it up at the grocery store, and it is us who decides to eat it. In this day and age, there is so much information available about food, that there is no way we can say “I didn’t know” there is no way to make excuses. Hold unhealthy food in one hand, and healthy food in the other, and you know which is which. This does not require any special knowledge either, its a “no-brainer”.

You can easily tell how a person feels about themselves, just by looking at them. You cannot be obese, and tell me that you love yourself. It is clear that you don’t, because anyone can see that you are punishing yourself. The real problem that must be dealt with is: How we feel about ourselves. Remember too that we all have issues. If it isn’t food, it is money, or sex, or perhaps we cannot quit smoking. No matter what the issue is, our troubles can only be within us. So it isn’t just with food and weight loss, any troubles that we may have, are within us.

I ask people the same questions that I ask myself: “What is so bad about you?” “Why do you not like yourself?” “Why do you feel the need to punish yourself?” “Why will you not allow good things for yourself?” These questions can be pretty tough to answer, but once things are out on the table, the work can begin. The work is reconstructing our self image, re-framing the way we see ourselves and the way we feel about ourselves. If you truly love yourself, you won’t do things that are bad for you. So if you want to lose weight, there is no need to bother with a diet. There is a great need to take a look at the way you feel about yourself.

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kyle says:

Jennye, thank you for reading, and for your comments!

Jennye says:

So true! Self esteem and self concept cannot be changed by dieting, by liposuction or other forms of fat removal…it takes commitment to do the inner work to learn how to surrender and change those core issues that are the root of what is “eating us”; when we truly love ourselves, we are willing to take loving steps and actions for ourselves. Sometimes we need a coach, a therapist, a person to walk beside us as our guide to discover those old beliefs , that once were created as strategies to save our inner child. Those false beliefs, as adults simply are not truth, if we are honest. It takes inner work to change those false belief systems, not picking up more food, more relationships, more money and things, etc. Loved your blog!!!