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Tag Archives: acceptance
It has been a while since the last blog. Actually this is the first one of 2020! (So, “Happy New Year!”)
My path has led me into trying different things, and saying, “yes” to different opportunities, and just opening up to Spirit in new ways. Meanwhile, maintaining all the things that were already in my life.
Often I’d like to wait until a certain thing gets taken care of, until I finish grieving my mother, until I can have the surgery to repair my eyes, … you know
Do you ever ask yourself that?
My therapist asks me that. And so does my friend Tony.
I let it all spill out about how everything is wrong, about how terrible I feel, and about how hopeless it all seems at times. And they pose the question to me, “So what?”
The little question can be deflating.
After all, things are really bad! Can they not see how important this is? Can they not see all the implications?
Not that it is fun to admit, but I can be a little overly dramatic.
This is something that I have to remind myself of often as I move seemingly from one world to another.
I leave a death-bed where I am attempting to bring comfort to the person and the family, to go talk with someone who is very distraught because their child is in jail or their best friend overdosed and died last night.
An hour later I am laughing and playing in the water at the pool with my 9-year-old daughter.
And there is something inside me asking, “What the heck is going on here?”
Some people have been so put off by various religions that they won’t even use the word, because it brings up associations of fear and guilt in them.
But a lot of these people still have another word for “it,” because they know that there is something there. (Obviously excluding our atheist friends)
(I will use the word “God” here simply because that is the word I use. But please feel free to substitute with whatever word you choose.)
We spend a lot of time worrying or thinking about a situation or a person that we have absolutely no control over.
Trying and wanting to control situations and people that we cannot control simply brings us misery and suffering. But often what we do, is we try harder, we push with more force, we become more angry and frustrated, and the only thing that can really happen, is that our suffering increases. (And this often causes people around us to suffer)
This has become a tradition since pre-school, and each year I cry.
There is just something about it… We are celebrating on one hand, but on the other had, it would be okay with me if we could just stop time right here and now.
But we know better.
The river of life flows on in a never-ending stream of people coming and going. It is for us to find acceptance, and to see the beauty of the process of life, and to make the most of it.
She had been away at a religious retreat, and was having an amazing time. Everything seemed perfect to her, the retreat grounds, the people around her were wonderful, and she was “buzzing” and feeling very connected to everything.
On one particular evening, just a couple of days before she was to go home, there was an amazing service and meditation. As she walked back to her room, the world felt more magical than she had ever imagined. Looking up over some tree’s, she then saw a beautiful fireworks display from the town that was near-by.
The Creator made all of us too. Mean, friendly, abusive, troubled, compassionate, kind, black, asian, white, tall, short… This is just something that I have always felt, even as a child. My readers already know that I don’t view the Creator/God as a man in a robe, sitting on a throne in Heaven somewhere up in the sky. So, I do really think of it as “we were created”, as much as I think of it as “we all come from the same place.”
Dear reader, I delivered my first talks/sermons in late 2010 and this is a talk I did at Tybee Church, and also at Unity of Savannah. This being my first experience with public speaking, it was a little rusty, so I took the transcripts of both talks, and came up with this. I do hope that this is helpful to you and that you will join me in this moment, right here in Heaven, and feel satisfied. Many blessings to you!
SATISFIED by Kyle Shiver
I want to talk to you today about using what is called a “mantra”.
-When a feeling of gratitude is present, stress is nowhere to be found.
– If a person needs to learn the hard way, it is better to let them learn sooner rather than later.
– The change that happened within, changed the world around me.
How could I possibly not want anything? Seriously? This made absolutely no sense to me whatsoever, but at the same time, I knew it was my wanting that was causing my stress, so I had to figure it out.
In part 1 of this blog, you will remember that I said “wanting never ends”? This means that once I get what I want, then I immediately want something else. This turns into a constant state of looking ahead, living in the future, and what about all the things we get, only to discard for the next thing? The first step is to stop hunting for the next big thing that I have to have, long enough to appreciate what I already have. What accomplishments have I already made? It is very easy to not notice all the blessings that are already a part of my life. Making a gratitude list every day is a great way to get started. Write down 10 different things every day that you are grateful for, and before you know it, you will feel grateful. When a feeling of gratitude is present, stress is nowhere to be found.